There’s way more going on in your head than there is in reality.
"Without a doubt the best book on human mechanics, architecture and design anyone will read all year, maybe all decade. No, no, no... all century."You- Once you've finished the book. You already know something is wrong. Not with you specifically. With the whole arrangement. The sense that the game is rigged, that the people at... Continue Reading →
There is a mechanism nobody talks about when they talk about banned words. Not the history. Not the pain. Not the politics. The mechanism. Because the mechanism is the same regardless of which word is in the slot, which group is doing the banning, or which era of history you're examining. And until you understand... Continue Reading →
The Accused There is a specific kind of damage that doesn't get named often enough because it looks like a personality trait from the outside. The person who over-explains. Who qualifies everything. Who says I think when they mean I know. Who watches your face while they're talking to you — not because they're socially... Continue Reading →
You are not your personality. You are not your natural limits. You are not the anxiety that shows up before the important conversation, the ceiling you bump into every time something real is within reach, the version of yourself that always finds a reason to stop just before the thing that would actually change your... Continue Reading →
The Foundation There is a version of you that was built before you had any say in the matter. Not the version you think of as yourself. The version underneath that one. The operating system that was installed before you were old enough to evaluate what was being put in. The one that determines what... Continue Reading →
Why What You Know Isn't Always What You Can Access — and What to Do About It I recently read something I wrote about love. Not someone else's writing about love. Mine. Words I generated from somewhere real, that meant something when they came out, that I put down because they were true and I... Continue Reading →
Let me be clear before anything else. When I use the word insanity here, I am not insulting anyone. I am describing a mechanical condition. A person whose entire world is built on unreliable secondhand information, defended by substanceless identity, and enforced by legal fiction is not evil or stupid. They are operating a structure... Continue Reading →
You Already Have What You Need. You Just Don't Know What's Running. I'm going to say something that might land wrong at first. The system isn't the problem. I know. Stay with me. The system is doing exactly what systems do — expanding into available space, selling what sells, running what runs, optimizing for compliance... Continue Reading →
There is a specific kind of stuck that doesn't feel like stuck. It feels like a natural limit. Like this is just as far as I go. Like the confidence runs out at a particular altitude or the knowledge stops at a certain depth or the visibility reaches a point where something pulls back without... Continue Reading →
What Childhood Activation Does to the Sacral Nervous System — and Why the Desire You're Ashamed Of Isn't Who You Are I'm going to say something out loud that most people only say in their heads, if they say it at all. Some of what drives the most compulsive, most hidden, most shameful adult sexual... Continue Reading →
What's Actually Happening When Your Voice Loses Its Ground — and Why Sitting Still Makes It Worse I got on a podcast recently and felt it happen. Not a catastrophic failure. Just the thing I know — the solar plexus going hollow, the voice moving up into the throat, the sentences not quite finishing themselves... Continue Reading →
On borrowed imagination, installed reality, and the oldest mechanic in the world running on your newest device. What You Actually See Look at the moon tonight. Not a picture of the moon. Not a diagram. The actual moon, with your actual eyes, from wherever you're actually standing. Take a moment with it before reading further.... Continue Reading →
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The bullshit machine is not always loud. Sometimes it shows up as generosity. You think of a friend who the bullshit machine thinks might be mad at you, because you think most people are most of the time, and then get the impulse to do something nice for them. Sounds simple. Sounds good. Except when... Continue Reading →
Most people don't know they've been programmed. Not because they're unaware that childhood shapes you — everyone knows that in the abstract. But because the specific mechanism is rarely named clearly enough to be useful. Here it is clearly. There are two ways a child learns. The first is cause and effect. Touch the hot... Continue Reading →
The Bullshit Machine 