There’s way more going on in your head than there is in reality.
The Accused There is a specific kind of damage that doesn't get named often enough because it looks like a personality trait from the outside. The person who over-explains. Who qualifies everything. Who says I think when they mean I know. Who watches your face while they're talking to you — not because they're socially... Continue Reading →
The Foundation There is a version of you that was built before you had any say in the matter. Not the version you think of as yourself. The version underneath that one. The operating system that was installed before you were old enough to evaluate what was being put in. The one that determines what... Continue Reading →
There is a specific kind of stuck that doesn't feel like stuck. It feels like a natural limit. Like this is just as far as I go. Like the confidence runs out at a particular altitude or the knowledge stops at a certain depth or the visibility reaches a point where something pulls back without... Continue Reading →
What Childhood Activation Does to the Sacral Nervous System — and Why the Desire You're Ashamed Of Isn't Who You Are I'm going to say something out loud that most people only say in their heads, if they say it at all. Some of what drives the most compulsive, most hidden, most shameful adult sexual... Continue Reading →
Most people don't know they've been programmed. Not because they're unaware that childhood shapes you — everyone knows that in the abstract. But because the specific mechanism is rarely named clearly enough to be useful. Here it is clearly. There are two ways a child learns. The first is cause and effect. Touch the hot... Continue Reading →
The Bullshit Machine 